When a couple’s marriage starts to become emotionally stressful, one of the spouses usually tries to figure out how to prevent divorce. Most people assume that they need to take drastic measures, such as a lavish weekend getaway or going straight to a marriage therapist to save their marriage.
While doing those things has their place in a relationship, you might want to start out with a more practical approach with how to prevent divorce. Chances are your marriage will benefit with everyday habits you can easily adapt into your daily routine. Consider the following:
She was 20, he was 25, and they were walking down the aisle with a 7 month baby bump between them. Some people thought they were doomed.
Who would have thought that they would end up 5 kids and 18 years later still together? What is it about their partnership that somehow… clicks?
Another marriage counselor colleague I talked with recently may not have been married as long as others but, along the way, we discovered that there are some common concepts or keys that cut across marriages we have known to be successful -think, 30, 40, 50 years.
When your spouse walks out that door, it feels like in that moment that your marriage separation is the end of the road.
With careful planning and the right attitude, however…
With the right attitude and preparation, separating for a prearranged period of time can give a marriage much needed perspective on the reasons you fell in love with your spouse to begin with, remind you that you feel happier and more fulfilled when you’re together, and let you remember the good times without being reminded of the difficulties on a daily basis.
In order for a marriage separation or a trial separation to work, you both need to be very clear about its objectives. These need to be transparent to both parties.
If you’re a woman…
Do you ever wonder why men do some of the CRAZY, unexplained things they do?
If it seems like sometimes your husband’s behavior or responses to you are
You see, science teaches us that while some of our desires and drives are conscious,
It may feel like it’s over and there is nothing you can do…
But you have more power over your future than you think.
They may say they hate you or never want to see you again. They may have already shifted out.
But you can stop divorce from happening in your marriage by following these 5 steps:
One of the most common questions we encounter is this:
How could one partner save their floundering marriage on their own?
It is a typical enough story – one partner leaves, the other stays. One remains “in love”, the other is uncertain. Whatever it is that has caused a couple to be apart, the one person who remains bears the prospect, fear, doubt, desire, hope of saving his or her marriage… ALONE.
In some of our minds, it stands to argue that since there are two people in this marriage, shouldn’t both of us be present to actually try and save it? Or, worse, it’s his, her, their fault so shouldn’t he, she, they be the ones to make amends? I am just the victim here, after all!
Sometimes it can feel as though our marriage is all consuming.
If your marriage problems feel as though they are sucking the very life force out of you, check out these 5 easy ways to fix marriage issues.
1. Describe your issue in three sentences (or less).
Do you want to save your marriage and depression is the
Have you sensed that your spouse is going through a trying
Is he or she displaying signs of sadness or depression?
Do you wonder how you can support your partner through
Has the depression caused serious marital problems?
Do you find yourself worrying about divorce in your
Are you concerned about all of the couples around you that
Do you ever look at your spouse or your marriage and worry
Divorce is a terrible thing and though it has become so
Do you feel like you fight about money constantly?
If there is one issue that causes upset in
Do you wish that you could just figure out a winning
If that sounds like you, you’re not alone.