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When we get married, we make a lot of promises to our beloved – to ‘love and to cherish, in sickness and in heath, for as long as you both shall live’.
But what promises do we make to ourselves when we get married?
When we go through patches where the day-to-day grind becomes a struggle, and our batteries become burnt out and empty, our general happiness tends to disintegrate – along with the quality of our social interactions.
Ideally, solving any conflict between your spouse is a simple process. All you have to do is point out the problem, take turns listening to each other and come up with a solution or compromise.
But you know from experience that arguing with your spouse is never a straightforward exercise in communication. In the real world, so much can go wrong. For some couples, they’ve been down this road so many times that they don’t even bother trying anymore.
Everyone knows what it’s like to be wronged in some way, be it by a person or situation. Anger is the natural response because this emotion pushes us into “fight mode” when we’re faced with threats.
To a certain extent, anger is actually a helpful defense mechanism that keeps us safe. However, poorly managed anger can endanger your health, relationships and the quality of your life in general.
Though we try to avoid stress in our lives, it’s a prevalent part of our daily routine. Throughout the week, we take on various responsibilities that require a great deal of our time and energy.
As the days pile up, so do our stress levels. Between paying the bills, raising the kids, attending to your partner’s needs and working on your career, it’s hard to find time to decompress and take care of yourself.
However, none of us can really afford NOT to do this. After all, we’re only human – even the most dedicated spouse needs to recharge their batteries.
Among the numerous consultations we handle daily, one of the most common cases we get is wherein one of the spouses is absent in the relationship.
This could be caused by a general feeling of disillusionment with the marriage or exasperation over a partner’s behavior. Whether one of them has moved out or is still there but acting very distant, it’s difficult for the other person to deal with this change in their marriage.
And so the usual problem is that the partner who wants to make things work becomes frustrated from the their spouse’s lack of interest in saving their marriage.