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M. Scott Peck, the author of “The Road Less Traveled”, says that the tendency to avoid problems and emotional suffering is the primary basis of human mental illness. According to him, “some of us will go to extraordinary lengths to avoid our problems and the suffering they cause.”
I have to agree – the Save My Marriage team handles a lot of couples who experience some form of sickness in their marriages because they have trouble facing the reality of their problems.
Among the numerous consultations we handle daily, one of the most common cases we get is wherein one of the spouses is absent in the relationship.
This could be caused by a general feeling of disillusionment with the marriage or exasperation over a partner’s behavior. Whether one of them has moved out or is still there but acting very distant, it’s difficult for the other person to deal with this change in their marriage.
And so the usual problem is that the partner who wants to make things work becomes frustrated from the their spouse’s lack of interest in saving their marriage.
In many marriages, the peaceful union between husband and wife is disrupted by clashes with the in-laws. As much as a spouse would like for everyone to get along, disagreements with partner’s family will break out for one reason or another.
More often than not, these fundamental differences in opinion can seriously get in the way of a marriage’s growth. It’s disheartening for many to marry a wonderful partner, only to get more than they bargained for.
Among the many couples who’ve consulted with us, we’ve come across two common problems that they fight about the most. To the passing eye, these everyday problems aren’t threatening – but any couple should know better than to ignore them.
Just because they’re common, it doesn’t mean you should take them for granted. They can slip under the radar and slowly eat away at the foundations of your relationship.
Previously, we discussed how to build up friendship in your marriage. We called this your Love Bank and you can keep your account balance high by making specific types of deposits.
A healthy Love Bank has a good amount of friendship which you can use as “emotional currency” that you can spend during times of difficulty.