SAVE MY MARRIAGE TODAY! EMAIL SWIPES FOR AFFILIATES
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THE SEVEN MISTAKES SERIES
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--- The seven mistakes series 1 ---
Subject line options:
- "Everything I do seems to make it worse"
- When trying harder pushes them away
- A letter from a husband in Miami
Preheader: Brad's wife told him she was unhappy. His first moves made things worse.

Hi {{first_name}},

Save My Marriage Today! opens one of its chapters with a letter from Brad in Miami.

His wife came home from work and told him she wasn't happy, and hadn't been for a long time. Brad cried and pleaded with her to stay for the kids. When that didn't work he got angry, accused her of not making enough effort and asked if she was having an affair. He finished his letter with this: "Everything I do or say to her just seems to be making it worse."

The book's answer to Brad is here:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

It calls what Brad did "damage control". You panic, do the first thing that comes into your head and hope the right words will arrive as you speak. The book says that in many cases this does far more damage to your chances of saving the marriage than the problem you started with.

Its first question is how long it has been since the problem came out into the open. Usually it's only days, sometimes hours, and the urge is to fix everything as quickly as possible. That urge is the first of seven mistakes the chapter walks you through.

[Add one honest sentence about why this matters to your readers]

If you're in Brad's position this week, read this before you say anything else:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

P.S. The second mistake comes down to one question the book asks, and it's worth answering honestly.

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--- The seven mistakes series 2 ---
Subject line options:
- Which matters more to you?
- Right or together? You may have to pick
- One question from Save My Marriage Today!
Preheader: A one-line question worth asking yourself before your next argument.

Hi {{first_name}},

Save My Marriage Today! asks a question worth a moment's thought: which is more important to you, being right or being together?

It comes in the chapter on the mistakes people make when they first find out their marriage is in trouble. One of the most natural reactions is to deny any part in it and decide the real problem is your spouse's selfishness or the way they talk to you.

Read what the course says about it here:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

The book accepts that responsibility is rarely split evenly, and that more of it may sit with your spouse than with you. Whoever started it, the solution rests with both of you, because you are both invested in the marriage.

Almaz from Ethiopia read the course and wrote: "I understand that only being right is not useful in marriage life and I changed my life style my attitude and my action."

[Add one honest sentence about a time you chose being right and what it cost you]

If your marriage keeps circling back to who is to blame, this is where to start:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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--- The seven mistakes series 3 ---
Subject line options:
- The worst thing to say when they want out
- Before you plead with your spouse to stay
- What to say instead of "I'll change"
Preheader: The first thing people usually say does the most damage to their credibility.

Hi {{first_name}},

When someone hears that their husband or wife wants out, the first thing they usually do is plead. They say sorry and promise to change, all in the same breath.

Save My Marriage Today! lists begging for forgiveness among the seven most common mistakes in a marriage crisis, and says it does a great deal of damage to your credibility.

See why, and what the course asks you to do in its place:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Think about it from your spouse's side. They have been unhappy long enough to say so out loud, and within hours you are promising to become someone new. The book points out that many people who beg for a second chance can't say which of their actions led to the crisis, and a spouse who is already unhappy notices that.

Its advice is to resist the urge to beg, acknowledge that there is a problem, listen, and understand your own part in it. If you are guilty of what you're accused of, it says, your words will mean very little, and your actions will rebuild trust over time.

[Add one honest sentence about why this matters to your readers]

Read this before your next conversation with your spouse:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

P.S. There are six more mistakes in the same chapter. One of them is an idea that sounds calm and sensible when a marriage is shaky.

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--- The seven mistakes series 4 ---
Subject line options:
- "I love you, but I'm not in love with you"
- What that sentence really means
- About the words that end so many marriages
Preheader: Save My Marriage Today! explains what is happening when a spouse says it.

Hi {{first_name}},

There's one sentence that comes up again and again when a marriage starts to break: "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore."

If you've heard it, you know how final it sounds. Save My Marriage Today! calls it one of the most over-used phrases in marriage breakups, and explains why it is far less final than it feels.

Here's the course:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

The "in love" feeling people talk about is the rush of romance at the start of a relationship. The book says it fades anywhere from six months to the first two or three years. When a spouse says they're no longer in love, the book describes what is happening as a transition, the point where both of you are being called to a deeper level of loving.

The course then shows what to do next, in a chapter called Getting Your Spouse to Fall Back in Love With You.

[Add one honest sentence about what you've seen in long marriages, your own or your readers']

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

P.S. Steven Kitchen from Edmonton wrote: "She just seemed to stop loving me. Thanks to your book, I've totally changed the way I approach the situation, it was not easy, but during the last three months, the turn around in our relationship has been simply amazing!"

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--- The seven mistakes series 5 ---
Subject line options:
- Don't suggest this while you both think
- The "space to think" idea that backfires
- A question about time apart
Preheader: It sounds calm and sensible, and it makes saving the marriage much harder.

Hi {{first_name}},

When a marriage gets shaky, a lot of couples land on what sounds like the most sensible idea in the world. One of them moves out for a while, and both take time to think about what they want.

Save My Marriage Today! calls this a BIG mistake, in capital letters, and says a trial separation should never be a first option.

The reason makes sense once you read it:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

The book's point is that time apart mostly teaches two people how to live on their own. Once you have both adjusted to that, saving the marriage becomes much harder.

If you need space, it suggests going to separate places for the day and keeping the routine of living together, while you work through what is wrong.

[Add one honest sentence about why this matters to your readers]

That chapter covers six other mistakes people make in the first days of a crisis, and the rest of the course shows what to do in their place, with exercises you can start on your own.

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

P.S. If your spouse has already moved out, Book 2, written for marriages in extreme crisis, is included with the course.

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--- The seven mistakes series 6 ---
Subject line options:
- The wish that keeps marriages stuck
- "I just want things back the way they were"
- The last mistake on the list
Preheader: The seventh mistake sounds like hope. The book explains where it leads.

Hi {{first_name}},

When a marriage is in trouble, one wish comes up more than any other: "I just want things back the way they were."

Save My Marriage Today! lists it as the seventh mistake people make in a crisis, and its reason is worth knowing:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

The book explains that couples who chase their old life often stop talking about their problems, on the idea that the past is behind them. The problem then stays hidden for a few months, sometimes for years, and comes back later with more force.

Its advice is to acknowledge what has gone wrong and understand each other's point of view first. Only then, it says, can a marriage move forward.

[Add one honest sentence about why this matters to your readers]

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

P.S. The course has 38 exercises, and each one is marked to do on your own or to do together, so you can start even if your spouse isn't ready.

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STORIES FROM THE COURSE
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--- Stories from the course 1 ---
Subject line options:
- Jane's husband came home and asked for a divorce
- She stopped doing the obvious thing
- A story Amy Waterman tells
Preheader: Amy's best friend had been married for 14 years. This is what happened next.

Hi {{first_name}},

Amy Waterman's best friend Jane had been married for 14 years and had two children. One night her husband, Adam, came home and asked for a divorce.

Jane couldn't eat or sleep, and she phoned Amy in tears.

Amy writes about relationships for a living, so she took Jane under her wing and taught her everything she knew. The first things to go were the things most of us would do without thinking. Jane stopped begging Adam to stay and stopped blaming him, and then Amy gave her steps that at first seemed counter-intuitive.

Amy tells the whole story here:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Months later, Jane and Adam came to Amy's party "totally loved up, hand in hand ... like a honeymoon couple."

Amy wrote down what she had taught Jane, refined it and tested it, and that became the course Save My Marriage Today!

[Add one honest sentence about why Jane's story stayed with you]

If your marriage feels the way Jane's did that night, read how hers turned around:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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--- Stories from the course 2 ---
Subject line options:
- The sentence that cancels a kind act
- Is your Love Bank in the red?
- About feeling taken for granted
Preheader: Save My Marriage Today! explains the Love Bank, and the one habit that empties it.

Hi {{first_name}},

Have you ever done something kind for your husband or wife and then reminded them of it later?

Save My Marriage Today! describes every marriage as having a Love Bank. Loving, thoughtful acts and words make deposits, and hurtful, careless ones make withdrawals. Happy couples keep a high balance, and the book says couples on the verge of divorce are so deep in debt that only complete forgiveness will save them.

See how the Love Bank works:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Here's the part that catches people out. The book says that if you resent the giving, remind your spouse how much you've given, or add "Now you have to do this for me," the deposit is null and void. So it's possible to give and give in a marriage and still watch the balance fall.

Steven B. from Virginia wrote after reading it: "I like the chapter on the Love Bank, its a brilliant concept."

[Add one honest sentence about a small kind act that matters in your own home]

The same chapter shows what to say, and what to avoid saying, when you raise a problem with your spouse.

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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--- Stories from the course 3 ---
Subject line options:
- Don't start with "We need to talk"
- The opening line that puts a spouse on guard
- Before you sit down for "the talk"
Preheader: Save My Marriage Today! explains why it backfires and how to open instead.

Hi {{first_name}},

If you've decided it's time to talk to your spouse about the marriage, there are two openings Save My Marriage Today! asks you to avoid.

The first is "I think we need to talk about our marriage." The book says it is so vague that the other person expects the worst and closes off emotionally before you've said anything else.

The second is telling them you've been reading a book that says you need to "work on" your relationship. The phrase suggests something is broken and that they aren't doing enough, and it puts them on the defensive straight away.

See the gentler way in that the course suggests:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Add one honest sentence about how talks about your relationship usually start in your home]

It's one small part of a 158-page course with 38 exercises, written for husbands and wives who want to save their marriage, even when only one of them is ready to try.

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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--- Stories from the course 4 ---
Subject line options:
- What's inside Save My Marriage Today!
- The marriage course I'd hand a friend
- A closer look before you decide
Preheader: 158 pages, 20 chapters, 38 exercises, and a chapter on when to see a counselor.

Hi {{first_name}},

[Add one honest sentence about how you came across Save My Marriage Today! or why you're writing about it]

Save My Marriage Today! is by Amy Waterman and Andrew Rusbatch, and here's what you get:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

It's a 158-page course in 20 chapters. It starts with the life cycle every marriage goes through and the seven mistakes people make in a crisis, then works through conflict, money, in-laws, the kids, sex and intimacy, and infidelity and trust. Along the way there are 38 exercises, each marked for you alone or for the two of you together.

I like that the last chapter covers when to see a professional and how to choose a counselor.

With it you get Book 2 for marriages in extreme crisis, a personal email consultation with the Save My Marriage Today team and five bonus books. It's $49.95 one time, it downloads straight away, and it comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee.

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

P.S. The consultation lets you describe your own situation and get advice on it from the Save My Marriage Today team.

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FREE COURSE INVITATIONS
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--- Free course invitations 1 ---
Subject line options:
- Why you should ignore divorce statistics
- A free 6-part course on why marriages end
- Free: The 6 Most Common Reasons for Divorce
Preheader: Lesson 1 covers the risk factors for divorce, and why you should ignore them.

Hi {{first_name}},

There's a free 6-part course from Save My Marriage Today that I'd like you to see. It's called The 6 Most Common Reasons For Divorce (And How To Stop Them From Happening To You), and it comes by email.

Sign up for it here:

==> {{FREE_COURSE_LINK}}

The first lesson covers the risk factors for divorce and why you should ignore them. The second is about what the course calls the real marriage killer, the loss of love and intimacy. After that come affairs and how to spot and prevent them, poor communication, lack of commitment and growing apart.

Fran C. from Canada took it and wrote: "Your six day course was an eye-opener."

[Add one honest sentence about why you think your readers will find it useful]

It costs nothing, and it's a good place to start whether your marriage is in trouble or simply drifting.

==> {{FREE_COURSE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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--- Free course invitations 2 ---
Subject line options:
- Mary's husband kept forgetting the groceries
- What the course calls the real marriage killer
- Lesson 2 of a free marriage course
Preheader: A small, everyday story from a free course on why marriages end.

Hi {{first_name}},

Mary's husband always promised to bring home the groceries she needed for dinner, and he always forgot. For Mary, every broken promise wore away at her trust in him.

What she did next comes from a free course, The 6 Most Common Reasons For Divorce, and you can have all six parts by email here:

==> {{FREE_COURSE_LINK}}

The next time he forgot, Mary didn't blame or criticize him. She left him watching the children, drove to the shop herself and enjoyed the outing. After a few more times like that, her husband asked what they could do so that neither of them had to fetch groceries during the week. He admitted he was tired after work and hated the detour, so now they do a bigger shop at the weekend.

The course puts it this way: "Mary's response transformed a high-tension situation into a manageable one-even though her husband's behavior didn't change."

That story sits inside the lesson on what the course calls the real marriage killer, next to a list of 25 relationship killers to keep out of your home.

[Add one honest sentence about a small, everyday thing that causes friction in a lot of marriages]

==> {{FREE_COURSE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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SHORT EMAILS
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--- Short emails 1 ---
Subject line options:
- What happens if it doesn't help?
- Try it for 60 days
- A quick note about the guarantee
Preheader: 60 days, and one email gets your money back.

Hi {{first_name}},

A quick one. If you've been looking at Save My Marriage Today! but weren't sure it would suit your situation, here it is again:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

You get 60 days to read it and try the exercises. If you aren't satisfied for any reason, one email to help@savemymarriagetoday.com gets your payment refunded, right up to the final day, with no fine print.

[Add one honest sentence about why you're comfortable recommending it]

It's $49.95 one time, and you can start reading tonight:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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--- Short emails 2 ---
Subject line options:
- If you're the only one trying
- When your spouse won't do the work
- For the one who hasn't given up
Preheader: Each of the 38 exercises is marked: do it yourself, or do it together.

Hi {{first_name}},

A lot of marriage help only works if both of you sign up for it. Save My Marriage Today! was written for the other situation as well.

It has 38 exercises, and each one is marked Do Yourself or Do Together, so you can start on your own tonight:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

The book's view is that while you can't control your spouse's actions, you have complete control over how you choose to react to them, and that is where saving a marriage begins.

[Add one honest sentence for the reader who feels alone in this]

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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SEASONAL EMAILS
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--- Seasonal emails 1 ---
Subject line options:
- A Valentine's idea that lasts all year
- Before you book a table on the 14th
- Your marriage could use a ritual
Preheader: Save My Marriage Today! suggests something smaller than a grand gesture, done every week.

Hi {{first_name}},

Valentine's Day puts a lot of pressure on one evening. Save My Marriage Today! has an idea that lasts longer than a dinner booking: a couple ritual.

Here's the course it comes from:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

The book says a ritual can be big or small, and its only requirements are that you do it regularly and that it means something to the two of you. It might be dinner at the table with the television off. It might be a Sunday morning spent reading the paper and sharing the best bits aloud, or a dancing class you take together.

[Add one honest sentence about a ritual you and your partner keep, or wish you did]

The same chapter looks at the plateau many marriages reach in the middle years and at bringing play and laughter back. The book says that when there's a healthy amount of teasing, joking and play in a marriage, conflicts can dissolve on their own.

If you'd like this Valentine's Day to start something that lasts, have a look:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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--- Seasonal emails 2 ---
Subject line options:
- Be more specific than "save my marriage"
- A resolution for your marriage this year
- Before you make any resolutions
Preheader: The course starts by asking you to write down what you really want.

Hi {{first_name}},

If your marriage is on your mind as the new year starts, Save My Marriage Today! begins in a useful place. In its first chapter, it asks you to write down your goals, and to be much more specific than "saving my marriage."

Start the year with it here:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

The book says your goals should describe the future you want, so that old habits don't repeat. Its example of a bad habit is a sharp "You never help me!" that leaves your partner less willing to help the next time.

It's also honest about what a book can do. It says reading it should only be the beginning, because it can suggest topics to discuss and exercises to bring you closer, but it can't make you act on them.

[Add one honest sentence about what you hope your readers' marriages look like by the end of the year]

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

[Your name]

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FROM THE ORIGINAL AFFILIATE AREA
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--- From the original affiliate area 1 ---
Subject: How Strong Is Your Marriage?

I've been reading the work of relationship writer Amy Waterman. She says the single biggest reason couples break up is unrealistic expectations and poor communication skills.

I tended to agree. For those of you who don't know Amy Waterman, she co-wrote Save My Marriage Today:

{{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

I had a good look over Save My Marriage Today and I was relieved that someone has finally come up with a full-inclusion course that covers all the fundamental issues (plus a few unexpected ones) that can jeopardize the love and security of your marriage.

So many couples break up over issues that could have been resolved if they had the right skill set to deal with issues, and knew the correct formula for maintaining healthy communication and worked towards a solution. It's often not a lack of passion or commitment as much as it is an inability to know what to do and where to start saving a marriage. That's where a step-by-step marriage saving course really pays off.

Amy's style helps couples, both young and old, repair their relationship problems and re-ignite the spark that once existed before it is too late. It's quite normal for a marriage to go through cycles, and arguments will happen from time to time. In fact, you should expect them as part of a healthy marriage.

It's how you deal with those arguments and disagreements that dictates the health of your relationship. Amy shows you the appropriate way to raise issues and deal with them in a way that takes into account the feelings of both parties and delivers an outcome that avoids the stress, pain and emotional trauma of marital failure.

She deals with topics such as:

* Tips on how to rescue your marriage

* How to reintroduce passion

* How to repair your marriage after an affair

* Self-assessment

* Gestures that are more important than words

And much more.

Many people split from their husbands and wives and go through enormous trauma all because they are unable to deal with what started as a simple problem that could easily have been overcome. Using and applying the methods in Save My Marriage Today ultimately could have saved them a lot of heartache, as well as money. It's such a waste.

Amy makes it easy for you by identifying key things that can jeopardize your marriage rescue and shows you how to avoid them. If you are serious about saving your marriage and making your love endure, you should learn all you can about communication, commitment, patience, and beliefs that will make your relationship stronger.

These are life skills that can help your marriage now and set it on the path to a secure future.

Customers also get a personal email consultation, so they can discuss their own situation with the Save My Marriage Today team.

Don't follow the advice of well-meaning friends or family. Your marriage needs methods built to last the distance. The techniques Amy and the Save My Marriage Today team reveal are thought provoking and practical. I found there was something for everyone in this course, no matter how long you have been married or how strong your union is.

I was very impressed when I finished checking out Save My Marriage Today and have recommended it to everyone who wants more happiness and fulfillment out of their life and marriage.

I would encourage you to look for yourself and do something today to save your marriage before it is too late!

Visit: {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

And take control of your happiness. For better or for worse, Amy and Save My Marriage Today can help your marriage.

Bye for now,

[Your name]

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--- From the original affiliate area 2 ---
Subject: Learning to Love Unconditionally

>>> There has never been a better time to put an end to the heartache of an unfulfilling relationship. You can rebuild the happiness and close connection, thanks to the life-changing techniques at SaveMyMarriageToday.com

{{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Hi {{first_name}},

Marriage, like life, is a cycle of ups and downs. It's easy to say your marriage is in good health when the world around you is prospering, but when your fortunes turn and your world is in hardship, how you interact within your marriage can often paint an altogether different picture.

How we feel about those we love can have a huge impact on the health of the relationship, much like a relationship with a friend. We love our friends, but the real test of a friendship or relationship is when, in times of crisis, we feel let down or disappointed in our loved ones or the outcome achieved.

In many cases, the disappointment you feel is in your perspective of the situation. You set standards of behavior for yourself and set the same high standards for those around you, and are disappointed when they let you down. In taking some meaning from the hurt you feel at being disappointed, a colleague shared the following insight:

"You feel disappointment so keenly because you love people so much"

So is it the same when we feel disappointed or let down by our partners? Do we feel disappointment or hurt so keenly because we put our partners up on such a pedestal and expect them to always get it right?

This was perhaps a little more complicated than I had first anticipated, and it made me wonder whether the fault was on them for not living up to our expectations or standards, or whether our standards were in fact what was at fault. Is it fair to expect the same level of respect and love that you offer so freely to those that you love?

I tell myself that I must lower my expectations of others and that I will do so in what they expect of me, but the reality is that I seem unable to do so. I think the world of my friends. If I love someone I feel compelled to share this thought with them so that they might know that they are valued, and I constantly live in hope that the same feelings are felt in return.

But in taking a closer look, we realize that this is part of what love is about. Sharing our feelings of connection with others, and letting them know that what they do is valued. We feel a sense of togetherness when we are able to share our feelings with others. Love is also what keeps us coming back for more, keeps us trying to do things better, and helps us to keep trying even when we feel let down.

So how do we let go of the hurt?

Some would say that unconditional love is giving love without the expectation of reciprocation. But it doesn't make it any easier. Part of loving those around you is knowing that they share the same values as you, and that they will be there to support you when you need it. Knowing that quitting isn't an option, and that the benefit of hanging in there is going to deliver benefits to both of you is what keeps many people going.

Telling your partner about your feelings and expectations is a hard thing to do, and exposes you to a certain amount of vulnerability. There is also the fear that your comments can be taken the wrong way, or that they can be used against you or interpreted as a criticism.

It's not about criticism. It's about helping your partner see why you feel the way you do. It's about helping communicate a part of what makes you tick. It may not be perfect, and it feels scary, but that is one of the most valuable parts of this exercise. In talking to a partner about your feelings and what leads you to feel these feelings is a valuable part of intimacy.

It's about getting to know each other better.

And realizing that loving someone is about loving them even when they let you down.

For more tips about unconditional love and developing a greater understanding of what it truly takes to create and foster a healthy and loving marriage, check out "Save My Marriage Today":

{{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Best of luck in your marriage,

[Your name]

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--- From the original affiliate area 3 ---
Subject: Key To A Better Marriage

Hi {{first_name}},

If your marriage is in crisis, you need to act, and you need a clear plan to help save it. Don't wait a moment longer:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Did you know that the longer you leave it, the more damage you risk doing? Don't risk pushing your spouse even further away.

Save My Marriage Today is a complete course built to help couples reestablish love and renew commitment.

What is 'Save My Marriage Today?'

It is a complete guide that takes individuals and couples on a journey of self-examination and gets to the heart of what is really happening behind your marriage crisis.

No matter how seemingly irretrievable your marriage may seem, with the right techniques and attitude, the Save My Marriage Today team can offer insights and information that will stem the flow of negativity and stop the mistakes you may not even know you are making... right now.

It's not about tricks and manipulation to get your partner to give you what you want.

It's about establishing key actions and patterns to get your life back on track, as well as your marriage.

This is about much more than your relationship. This is going to change the way you live your life.

I strongly recommend that you check out the website right now as this course has helped men and women around the world, and it could help you too.

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Kind regards,

[Your name]

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--- From the original affiliate area 4 ---
Subject: Don't Wait Any Longer

Hi {{first_name}},

This is a quick note to let you know that Save My Marriage Today comes with 6 marriage-saving bonuses, all for one price of $49.95:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

If you ever wanted a better marriage and better life skills for dealing with the challenges that face you and the marriage, then this is something to get right now.

Check it out as soon as you can:

==> {{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Kind regards,

[Your name]

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--- From the original affiliate area 5 ---
Subject: Stopping Your Spouse From Divorce

>>> It's never too late to save your marriage, which is why it's imperative that you have the right tools and techniques. If you are serious about saving your marriage, there's no better time than now:

{{AFFILIATE_LINK}}

Hey {{first_name}},

There are numerous reasons why a once committed relationship would degenerate to one partner asking for a divorce. It could have been:

* an affair * having been separated by a long distance for lengths of time * conflict * behavioral issues or psychological problems of one spouse * midlife crisis * even unmanaged addictions.

Regardless of the problems seen and experienced on the surface, the bottom line is that usually, barring any abuse or psychological problems that are best handled by a professional, a couple can find themselves in danger of divorce when there is a loss of:

* communication, * love * and intimacy

in the marital relationship.

Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable.

However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage?

If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter.

How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions?

While we cannot, MUST NOT and IN NO WAY manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself.

While you may feel your partner's actions are the issue here, your reactions to those actions are actually more important.

You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you.

Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.

Here's the thing. You can choose to wallow in pain and anger or you can choose to become even more positive and loving towards your spouse. You can choose to blame and shame your partner or you can choose to take stock, be accountable for where your marriage is and move on towards a more fulfilling, happy you.

Yes, you heard right. YOU can CHOOSE to be fulfilled and happy in the midst of crisis.

Even if your spouse is stubborn and unresponsive, you can still change yourself and become as engaging, positive and proactive as you were when you first fell in love.

Usually, at the struggling stage of a relationship, one or both couples would look back and miss the good old days where it was easy to be together. You can capture those days again - and even add to them with your own current maturity and growth.

After all, you did not spend all those years together to throw what you have away so easily.

You and your spouse have made a huge investment into this partnership and your intention to stay in the marriage through positive loving actions, through open communication and strengthened commitment, can help your spouse refocus their view on what you once committed to.

Become a loving person again by caring for your spouse in the little everyday things. Be there for him or her when before you may have been too much of a workaholic.

This marriage crisis may be the one thing that raises your awareness of the many gifts your relationship has offered you. Sometimes we don't appreciate things that come to us too easily, or don't appreciate them until they are gone.

By raising your awareness of your marriage crisis, and empowering yourself to stay positive regardless of the many influences threatening to drag you down, fate has offered you the chance to change your perspective.

Let go of the negative. Let go of the fighting. Once you are able to do that, you are ready to start loving.

Set aside intimate time just for your partner alone whereas previously, you may have let the kids take up too much of your time.

Then, when the time comes that you are able to open communication with your spouse and actually sit down and discuss the crisis you're in -ask him or her if he or she realizes just how much effort a divorce could entail?

Does your spouse actually realize that a divorce has emotional, financial, logistical and physical consequences, often stretching out years beyond a divorce?

A divorce brings CHANGE and it is definitely not to be taken lightly. If your spouse wants a divorce, is he or she prepared to embrace this change?

Finally, you also have the option to involve a third party or mediator to help you and your spouse through this situation. If the situation is truly serious then by all means, get help.

This is not the time to let your pride get in the way. A professional counselor, trusted elder or neutral friend can help in putting things into perspective between you and your partner and may even help unlock deep seated concerns or issues.

For all you know, it may be as simple as your partner wanting more attention or more ways to open up to you.

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Subject: Free: The 6 Most Common Reasons For Divorce

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When your marriage is in crisis mode, it's hard to think clearly. You may not know why you don't love your spouse as strongly as you used to. You may not know why you can't seem to get along. You may not have an explanation for why you can't agree on things. The worst thing is that on top of all of this, you may not know how to fix it and get back to how things used to be.

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Subject: After The Honeymoon...

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Hollywood has shortchanged us. So have fairy tales, romance novels and the media in general.

Since childhood, we've been fed with a steady diet of romantic fantasy - Boy meets girl, they fall in love, boy and girl ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after.

It's the classic romantic archetype and deep inside, we actually have been conditioned to believe it. We go through life and relationships assuming that if only we just fall in love, everything will be fine, happy, perfect and passionate all the time.

We will always wake up ready and willing to make love, with fresh breath, shining hair and unlimited libido. In short, we will be in a constant honeymoon state.

It's good for a while because such ideas give us a sense of hope and beauty with which to live by in a challenging world. That's fine - for as long as we realize that reality does not always hand everything to us on a silver platter.

Life is a journey of ups and downs, and not exempted from this truth are our relationships.

Hollywood gives us further clues that the honeymoon stage is bound not to last, nor should it. Living amidst intense scrutiny, we see passionate Hollywood couplings burn out even before the ink is dry on the marriage certificate.

And with this burn out, comes divorce. "Irreconcilable differences" is a favorite catch phrase.

If only these couples realize that the "After the Honeymoon" stage is part of the normal course of any relationship, perhaps they could have saved a lot of heartache.

If only we all understand that relationships, like anything in life, have their own progression and phases then we can better equip ourselves to go through and even enjoy these stages as part of our maturing as individuals and as persons-in-relationship.

When you find that your relationship is precisely at this stage: i.e. the initial thrill, the daily love-making marathons, the constant craving has gone - what do you do?

The first thing is actually to understand. Just because the heady feeling has faded does not mean that the relationship is no longer intact.

The commitment partners made, the relationship built - these are bigger than the thrills and understanding this makes for an even deeper and more committed love between two people.

In fact, rather than berate your partner for having let your relationship deteriorate to this state, you should in fact congratulate yourselves.

You have reached a stage of your relationship where the opportunity to develop, strengthen and cement it further opens up new vistas of relating.

At this stage, the rose-colored glasses fall off and you will see your partner for who he or she is, flaws, attributes and all.

At this stage, the opportunity is presented for you to go beyond expectations of perfection in your partner to actually appreciating all the traits that make your partner who he or she is.

As you appreciate your partner, you would find it fair to be appreciated yourself - flaws and all. After all, keeping up the thrill of the honeymoon can turn artificial and exhausting under most circumstances.

It assumes that you are expected to be perky and accommodating all the time which we're sure is not really who you are on a daily basis. You too have your ups and downs, you too are on a life journey and the sooner you and your partner adjust to these life rhythms, the better.

While this article may extol the positives of facing reality, we are very much aware that this stage is also the stage of conflict.

As you and your partner work out your relationship and adjust to each other, conflict is to be expected. There's no other way around it.

Continuous communication and quality time together propel this along. At this stage, both of you are given the chance to develop deeper, more honest and more open communication with each other.

Both speaking in words and deeds as well as listening are highlighted here. At this stage, both of you can learn the language of love as well as conflict in your relationship.

These are the tools that will stand you in good stead for the rest of your lives together. With these, you develop the attitudes that will build the love, trust and intimacy to last a lifetime.

Passing through this stage, you may be surprised to discover that instead of diminishing the love and attraction you have for each other, your sexual attraction actually grows.

As you connect deeper with your partner, you become more comfortable in your own skins and even in communicating your sexual needs and desires. You learn to trust each other more emotionally and physically.

Imagine that! You even end up with a much better version of the Hollywood dream.

Whether you're about to embark on a new, fresh relationship or are already struggling "after the honeymoon", don't worry too much.

Open up your mind and heart and know that even when the honeymoon is over, the rest of your lives begin.

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Subject: Dating And Intimacy

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Any marriage will inevitably face a battery of storms during the course of its life cycle. Some couples may face bigger problems than others, but the one constant in any relationship is a series of tests and trials that will occur over the years and decades.

One way or another, you and your spouse will have to go through your own unique set of conflicts. When it comes to marital problems it's always a question of "when" rather than "if".

For many couples, the root of their difficulties doesn't lie in their actual problems, but in their lack of preparation. Some think that being merely aware that married life isn't perfect will be enough to help them get past conflicts.

However, foresight is much more than just anticipating the problems ahead - it also has a lot to do with taking precautions in order to deal with them.

That is why a regular habit of preventive maintenance is important in preserving any investment you make in life. With something as precious and priceless as your marriage, you should be mindful of the things you have to do today in order to strengthen your foundations on a long-term basis.

Think of your relationship as a tree; reinforcing your roots will make it difficult for any storm to yank it out of the ground.

Specifically, regular dates and rituals are some of the most practical but vital measures you can take to preserve the health of your marriage. Cars break down when they are neglected or miss their scheduled check-ups.

That's basically what life is all about: constant maintenance that keeps everything in good working order. A little tweak here and a minor adjustment there go a long way in keeping your relationship from going off-course.

When you make the conscious effort to clear a chunk of your time for your spouse, it signifies that it's in your interest to keep each other happy. Not only that, every date you keep or ritual that you habitually observe are small but infinitely powerful affirmations that you want to stay with your partner for better or worse.

Whenever you make the effort to leave the kids with your parents during Friday night movie date, you are also renewing the vows you made at the altar.

As an aside, I would like to point out that while rituals and dates should be part of your marriage, there is a distinction between them. Rituals are habits or practices that should be little reminders of your love for one another.

They can be something as simple as passing by the bookstore where you first met, or choosing to sit in a certain section of the movie theater where you had your first kiss.

Dates also serve the same general purpose, but these are social functions done outside of the house. You can do those special rituals as part of your date, or separately for certain occasions. The important thing is that both things are done on a regular basis.

Another significant reason behind dates and rituals is that they keep the emotional connection alive by constantly creating and updating an exclusive pool of shared experiences.

After all, there should be some compartment of your marriage that's reserved for only the both of you. It is this private feeling for one another which serves as your foundation and must be preserved at all costs.

A lot of busy couples make the excuse of ignoring these things, thinking that they can put it off for another time. When it's a marriage we're talking about, what you take for granted today can be whisked away tomorrow.

It's very unhealthy to assume that things will stay the way you want to without making enough effort to keep it as such. Keeping a regular schedule for dates (and any rituals found within) should be part of your regimen to keep your relationship fit.

Here's another way of looking at it: not investing enough time in your marriage puts that sense of intimacy at great risk. Often called by many as the "spark", the emotional closeness you have with your spouse will keep you from falling apart when you run into problems.

It doesn't take a relationship expert to realize that you need to drop everything once in a while and enjoy each other's company to keep yourselves from being miserable.

Marriage is work, but all work and no play makes for a very dull marriage. Once that dullness sets in, it can cultivate an atmosphere of coldness and detachment. I don't have to tell you that those are two very ideal factors for cheating.

In a nutshell, it is always in peoples' nature to seek something that they feel are lacking in their lives. In the case of an estranged spouse, he/she may choose to capture that "falling in love" feeling with another person that they are superficially attracted to.

Simply put, any partner needs to have the feeling of being loved and validated by their spouse. Without it, they could very well go off chasing after someone else to satisfy that basic necessity lacking in their marriage.

This is one of the biggest reasons why people cheat on their spouse. If they can't get enough happiness from their current relationship, a "starved" partner might justify running off with another person to satisfy their needs.

In short, going on dates and observing couple rituals keeps you focused on each other, and not on people outside the marriage. These things allow you to remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place.

Essentially, you are preventing a gap to grow between you both, lest that void be filled by someone else. It's important to remember that it's way easier to prevent a problem from getting out of hand rather than fixing the damage resulting from negligence.

In today's troubled economic times however, both spouses need to work just to make ends meet. As such, couples have to sacrifice their "we time" in order to pay the bills.

Yet you should bear in mind that the marriage you are trying to sustain needs more than just financial support. The emotional and romantic aspect of your relationship needs attention, too. Therefore, all couples must make time to reconnect with one another. Whether it's on a monthly, weekly, or daily basis, you should make the effort to squeeze in some couple time.

Of course, every marriage has a different set of circumstances, so you'll need to work out a customized date schedule to suit your situation. Do try to sit down and discuss this with your spouse so that both of you can agree upon which specific day(s) of the month are just for the two of you.

As for the dates themselves, they should go by a few general guidelines to make them effective. First of all, they need to be meaningful to you both. Whatever activity or outing you have in mind, they have to appeal to you emotionally.

I suggest that your dates should be a sort of reminder of your early days as a couple. This allows you both to remember the things that brought you together in the first place. For instance, if you first met on the dance floor, then you can go back to those times by setting a fortnightly or monthly ballroom date.

As we mentioned before, these have to be out of the house if you can manage it. Making the effort to dress up and go out will stimulate you into going through the motions of keeping your love alive.

While you can have rituals like vegging out in front of the TV and having a snack before turning in for the night, there also has to be an evident commitment to make time for each other at an outside venue. It can be a weekly trip to the planetarium, or a nice coffee date where you first met.

Whatever it is, your dates are best done at a special place aside from home.

Although there aren't any hard and fast rules set in stone regarding the length of your dates, they do have to be long enough to allow you a nice conversation or the opportunity to renew your intimate connection.

To give you an idea, why don't you try taking up a sport, or get back into doing some of the hobbies or interests that you enjoyed before you met? Physical activity is a great way to diffuse tension brewing at home and relieve the strain on your marriage.

Try engaging in sports that will either allow you to compete against each other or cooperate against other opponents. Generally, a minimum of one to two hours seems to work for many couples.

Another suggestion we have is for you to take part in some community work or any activity with a social cause. If both of you would be inclined to do so, this is a great way for you reconnect in a way that also benefits people and organizations who need all the help that they can get.

For example, volunteering to read books to the elderly or sick, help out at your local food shelter, or a fundraising community group, will help you bond and make you think of the things that you might be taking for granted as a couple.

The bottom line is that your dates should have no creative limits; as long as they can help you renew your connection in a tension-free setting, then you are doing the right thing for your marriage.

Life-threatening emergencies notwithstanding, the important thing is that you make a solid promise to one another to keep your regular dates and rituals etched into your respective calendars.

Even in your weakest or most trying moments, those dating rituals and dates may be the one thing that sustains you and saves your marriage.

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Subject: Removing Divorce From The Menu

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No one is saying that your marriage isn't difficult. It might even be miserable. But here's an interesting idea: people who take divorce off the table are pushed to face their issues, and many end up happier for it.

If your marriage is feeling troubled, and you're considering divorce, consider trying alternate therapies instead, marriage counseling, or just some open communication. But whatever you do, don't bring up the "D" word as an option, because doing that will change the rules of the game.

Now, of course it's important to acknowledge that there are a lot of influences on you to get a divorce. Your friends who don't like your spouse, legal advertisements, even popular culture. With divorce so common, it can seem like an acceptable, even normal way to resolve problems in a marriage.

Research on unhappy couples who stepped back from divorce has found that many of them describe themselves as happily married a few years later. In all likelihood this is due to two elements.

The first is that those couples who decide not to consider divorce, the only remaining option is to deal with the problems experienced in the marriage head-on. This is a powerful and proactive tactic that will lead to acknowledgement of the problems the couples face, and maybe even to solutions.

The other element is that once divorce is considered, the dynamic of the relationship is changed. This is a more subtle, though far more destructive product of considering divorce. The dynamic of this is simple. When a fundamental disagreement develops in a marriage - as it will in almost all relationships - those who never consider divorce are forced to deal with the disagreement.

Those who do consider divorce preserve an "out" that can be used without ever addressing the issue. As the problems in the marriage mount, or the fundamental issues become more divisive, the easy out of divorce can become more and more appealing.

This thinking will take both of you, however. When both people in a marriage are actively searching for a solution to a problem, and both accept that divorce is not - and will not be - an option, a solution will almost surely be found. You and your spouse will be asking what you can do to make things better, rather than asking if it's worth it, or if you should cut your losses and run.

Remove divorce as an option and endeavor to go into relationship counseling, therapy of some kind, or just talk about your problems in a mature and open way. To many it may seem the more difficult option, but considering the long-term impacts of divorce on your life, finances, and family, committing to finding ways through the pain and communicating your way towards a solution seems immediately more attractive!

It seems simplistic, but it changes how both of you approach the problem. Those who deny divorce as a viable end to a committed marriage will also be more motivated to work on that marriage, and work through the problems that could, without communication and understanding, put an end to something that was supposed to be a lifetime commitment and bond.

Divorce is never the end of your problems. In most cases, it's only the beginning of a whole new set of problems to face. If you want a solution that not only helps you grow as a person, but also fosters a healthier and more stable relationship, make sure you visit Save My Marriage Today:

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Subject: Balancing A Marriage And A Career

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A good marriage can be built only by constant attention and effort. It evolves, changes, and develops slowly over a period of time. It does not develop overnight. The same applies to a good career.

A healthy relationship is about balancing the attention you offer your spouse and your career. You have to effectively divide your time and attention between your marriage and career if you want to succeed in both, and the amount of time you offer each is governed by the circumstances of your marriage as well as your marital and individual goals. It's not always an easy thing to do! Managing a successful career and a marriage and family is a skill that calls couples to make judgments that don't always work. In one corner you need to spend a large amount of time and effort in the workplace to advance and increase your salary and lifestyle, and in the other corner you need to spend the necessary time at home cultivating the relationship and fulfilling both yours and your partner's needs.

This is where problems begin. How much time do you devote to your career? How much time do you devote to the marriage? Sometimes it feels as though you are being pulled both ways. Many cannot manage both and sometimes they even lose both. Too much time either way comes at the expense of the other.

It doesn't have to be this way. If your communication is clear and you plan properly, you can have it all.

These days companies expect more and more from their employees. You are expected to work beyond your regular hours that may add up to fifty or seventy hours a week. If you want to climb the career ladder you have to be seen to be putting the hours in. In addition to this, the demands on your income may be greater at an early stage in the marriage. A wife, young children, childcare, schooling, rent or a mortgage, all of these things place a large strain on the family income. You have to keep the job in order to not just earn a living for yourself but to support your family.

Being an executive doubles or triples your burden. In fact, the demands are greater and the stress is higher. You may be expected to oversee projects, meet deadlines, do project reports, give presentations, etc. You may spend an increasing amount of time everyday at your office to get all this done. How will this affect your marriage?

With the increasing demands on income, it's increasingly common to see both partners working long hours, and this can have a detrimental effect on the relationship. The perception is that you are all working hard to have a better life, but the cost of working long hours is that there is less time to have a life!

Career advancement, workplace pressure, two-income families, shift work, all of these are factors that can place pressure on marriages. But if you are able to play it smart like some couples, you can have a successful career and a stable marriage. All it requires is communication and balance.

There are couples that successfully manage their careers and their marriages. Since both partners are busy during weekdays, they make it a point to plan a specific date night each week so that they can spend some quality time together. With this kind of an arrangement, you may look forward to the date night and focus little on the days your spouse is not available.

Some couples come to an understanding by setting some ground rules. You may set your schedule to work late nights two or three days in a week. You may negotiate with your office if you are on a traveling job and limit your travel to two or three trips per month. You may schedule to take some of your leave in small increments so you can have long weekends away together every few months.

The key to a successful marriage is in having clear communication. Sit down with your partner. Make a budget. Talk about what you need to do to pay the bills. Talk about what is expected of you in your job. Talk about how your job is important when it comes to paying the bills and funding your lifestyle. Talk frankly with each other about what is necessary for you to reach your goals as a couple. Be clear about what your goals are.

Too many people believe if they work harder and earn more money the marriage will get better. It's simply not true. Work to live, not live to work. While it is great to have career goals and individual goals, they need to be congruent with your marital goals. Talking and communicating with your partner is the key to achieving balance, having the resources you need to live, and the time available to enjoy it.

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Subject: Commitment: More Than Just Lip Service

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Historically, relationships and marriages were formed for different reasons, some being to form alliances between two families or to ensure successors. Young couples entered relationships because they were headed for marriage and to do otherwise was "living in sin".

Moreover, many cultures have promoted marriage as the only venue for having children recognized by society, culture, civil and religious laws. Simply, people got married (or committed to one another in different types of cultural arrangements) to have children and to provide these offspring with a stable home environment.

These days, that perspective has radically changed. People are having fewer children. More and more couples are living together without marriage. What's more, even the presence of children does not guarantee that a couple will stay together, unlike 40-50 years ago when our parents and grandparents believed that children were enough reason to stay in a marriage.

In the past, many entered in to relationships or marriage to ensure financial security. In our grandparents' time, the woman was usually dependent on the man, hence, she had more reason to stay with her husband.

In later years, couples touted the benefit of having two incomes where one income can be a fallback when one partner loses a job or becomes ill.

Today, young men and women want to strive for financial success independently before considering marriage. This means that financial reasons are no longer reason enough to stay in a marriage or enter a long term relationship.

Today, the stigma over divorce and being single has been reduced significantly. Concepts such as cohabitation, dating and extended "singleness" have provided people with alternatives to their states in life.

As a result, we marry later or not marry at all.

The idea that a first marriage is usually a trial marriage that will end in divorce is also quite prevalent among young people, further diminishing the value of marriage into something that is temporary rather than for life.

Why then would couples want to commit to one another long-term or marry, and stay together, if not children, religion, social norms or financial security?

In 2001, the National Marriage Project conducted a study that included questions on why people want to marry or enter into long term commitment. Their study reveals that young men and women want to be with someone who they have a profound spiritual and emotional connection to, meaning a "soul mate".

This means that the main focus is the relationship itself. Finances, religion and social expectations minimally, if at all, enter into the equation.

The problem with this idea is that it can place too much expectation on each partner and on the relationship itself.

Individuals who enter into relationships with this belief may expect that everything will be perfect all the time. As a result, they will be unable to cope with real issues and problems such as routine, complacency, conflict, unhappiness or financial difficulty.

True enough, many couples today are divorcing or permanently separating claiming feelings of dissatisfaction, disillusionment, distress and unhappiness as primary reasons for shifting out.

People expect that their partner and their relationship will always make them happy and are shocked when things don't go according to plan.

What couples need to understand is that relationships are not always happy. Like anything in our world, change is a constant. People change and the dynamic of relationships change along with them. If only more individuals confront this reality early on, they may be spared from future heartache and disillusionment.

Couples need to understand that nothing is perfect and they will need to weather bad times along with the good. Marriage and long-term relationships are lifelong processes of stagnation, renewal, birth, death, life and loss.

Each couple must be aware that these things happen and they need to see and appreciate the relationship for what it is, and not what it's not.

Accepting the good as well as the bad shows the couple that things get better and all they need to do is to get through the difficult periods. Staying together through good times and bad requires patience, communication, willingness and yes, love!

How can a couple then work out their commitment to one another amid the many concrete challenges of everyday life?

With so many obligations such as work, children, friends, family, hobbies, projects, home and the like, it is no wonder that many couples complain that they don't have enough time for each other. How can a couple balance their commitment to the other aspects of their individual lives with their relationship?

Communicating with your partner is key. You can try a drawing exercise to map out the various aspects that require your commitment. A pie chart would do nicely. Next, share with your partner and plan out how your personal commitments fit into the big picture of your relationship. Plan out your priorities and agree to the order of your commitments.

For a relationship to be successful, a couple needs to understand that commitment is more than a feeling, it's a decision. Each day, you and your partner decide what needs to come first. In many cases, it's the relationship. In other serious matters like illness or death in your immediate families, a couple's commitment is tested by how well they can support one another and face a particular difficulty together.

What's important is that each one maintains a higher level of awareness and constantly asks himself or herself whether a particular pursuit will be beneficial for the relationship and how can the couple, together, manage big and small obligations in their individual lives as well as in their marriage or relationship.

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Subject: Owning Feelings And Actions...

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It can be quite frustrating when your partner does not want to communicate with you, especially in a relationship or marriage crisis. You may be feeling quite powerless and hopeless as well. All the more is it doubly frustrating when there is communication but a total lack of cooperation from your partner or when your declarations of love or requests for discussion are met with rejection and disdain.

Wanting to save your marriage is one thing; your partner's willingness to meet you halfway is another. And, sometimes, you feel as if you are all alone in wanting to save your relationship. It can be quite overwhelming, surely, feeling as if every effort you make will not be enough.

At this point, any help is a welcome relief. It will certainly be helpful to have a listening ear or caring friend who you can trust to give you sound advice.

In many situations, there is one piece of advice that we believe can make a difference: YOU have the power.

While you cannot control the actions of others, you still have your reactions within your grasp. For many, these words can spell the difference between allowing a crisis to overwhelm them, or finding the strength to march forward towards hope.

You have a great responsibility towards yourself - that of allowing yourself to always behave in a dignified and objective manner. Think of it this way. How have your past feelings and behavior influenced your present relationship crisis?

Have you been angry or resentful towards your partner, even if they were the one who was "at fault"? How have you reacted to their actions or lack of affection towards you?

Do you blame your partner for what is happening to you right now? Have you said to yourself "They just make me lose my temper" or "You make me feel rejected"?

Statements like these imply that it is your partner who is causing you to feel all these things. The reality is that, actually, your feelings are within your control.

Nobody can make you feel angry or sad or depressed unless you allow them to. At a certain point, you have chosen to feel the negative things you are feeling. You gave yourself permission to be furious or jealous or hurt. You have allowed feelings of inadequacy, incompleteness or incompetence to get the better of you. Your partner's words and actions may have affected you deeply but, ultimately, you can choose how you feel and react to what they say or do. More importantly, you can choose not to let the negativity of a bad response wash over you, which may push you to actions or words you may later regret. The reaction you choose is within your control.

I am not saying that it is wrong to feel what you feel. On the contrary, you wouldn't be a warm, loving human person if you were not capable of being hurt or feeling pain. However, you can also determine the actions you take as a result of those feelings, or even how you allow them to affect you.

Instead of lashing out when your partner says or does something hurtful, take a step back. Even if you feel that you are being taken advantage of, resist the temptation to wound your partner in the way they have wounded you. Take into account that your partner has his or her own reasons for behaving the way they do. It's highly possible that they're hurt too or feel ashamed and want to make you feel just as wretched as they do.

Whatever it is, there is a reason behind their behavior. Consider your partner's motivation. Once you have an insight into their behavior, what is the best way that you can react? Do you want to feed the negativity or help extinguish it in favor of a more positive outcome? Will your reaction save your relationship?

Understanding your partner does not mean that you excuse their behavior, especially if it is truly hurtful and unjust. You don't have to agree with what he or she is doing. However, what's important is that you realize your reactions can make or break the situation.

Over and above, remember to love your partner. What can you do that can save your relationship? What is your relationship calling you to learn about yourself and love? You can be honest with your partner - tell him that while you are hurt by their behavior and do not agree with it, you still love them and want to be with them. This way, you are making a choice to love your partner unconditionally.

Even if your partner is resistant, at the very least you have reacted positively to a negative situation and focused on doing something constructive. Remember, the key to your positive reaction is not in waiting for your partner to apologize. It's about setting standards of behavior and developing a heightened sense of self-awareness in the way you interact with others.

Understanding just how powerful your reactions can be is a first step towards rebuilding trust and love in your broken relationship. This is an insight that few people come across and are able to adapt.

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Take back control in your relationship and empower yourself to make a difference.

Best of luck with your relationship,

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